Signs of a good abusive boyfriend - It's real, love is blind
Love is blind, a new famous saying that proves real all too often. We find a person that woos us and sweeps us of our feet. We fall mind over heels for him and would perform anything for him. He is kind, generous, loving, and all around has a great personality.
But while that is all well and good, what we fail to realize is that personality might not be the real him. Many people will put up a front and use a mask for one reason or another, and often this can lead to problems as the genuine them behind the mask is not the person we fell in love with.
If this is the case, if the real man hiding behind the facade is not the man that charmed us and produced us fall in love, then there might be indications of an abusive boyfriend. If your boyfriend is abusive, there are often tell tale signs that may warn you of this possibility.
- Does your boyfriend often get jealous? Jealousy is often overlooked in the early stages of a relationship. We think he simply cares for us, and often think it is kind of sweet how he gets jealous. But this can be a sign that he might be a bit too possessive which could lead to abuse.
- Does he try to micromanage you? Signs of an abusive boyfriend also include trying to dominate you and make you obey him. If he tries to determine what you wear or the method that you look, it can be a reddish colored flag that he is an abusive man.
- Has he ever verbally abused you? We all get into fights and say nasty items, that is to be expected. But is it a common occurrence? Will he belittle you in front of others, or for no reason?
- Has he ever committed violent crimes? When we are young we are stupid, therefore having a criminal record is no big deal. But if he has committed a violent crime you might like to be a little wary. Although it is just a real concern if he did so on multiple occasions.
- Does he try to isolate you from friends and family? Abusive boyfriends often employ this tactic to entrap you. If they alienate you from your friends and family, you will be even more hesitant to leave the relationship or seek assist should it turn sour.
- Is usually he violent to animals? Abusive males will often use the poor as a vent for his or her anger. However it is only one small stage from hitting a dog, to hitting you. Therefore if they are willing to inflict harm on a living creature, it will only take a small push to make them shift their focus.
These tips are not the be all finish all on indications of an abusive boyfriend. They will not guarantee that your boyfriend will turn out to be abusive. Everyone is different and some people simply have their problems. However if you feel these signs apply and that your boyfriend may turn violent and abusive down the road, then it is best to get out before it gets serious.
